Success is clearly intimidating; why it’s intimidating is much less clear. Whatever your definition of success is, chances are at some point you’ve been interested in a woman who’s higher up on your ladder of choice than you are. If successful women don’t intimidate you, congratulations: You belong to the 21st century. But many men are throwbacks to an earlier time in this regard.
Success in a woman can mean many things: Many women define their success as a product of their home life or their ability to counsel their friends. The success this article addresses is of the career variety: the type of driven, smart and able women that thrive in the business world. Successful career women may be partners-in-training at their law firms, CEOs of a company or editors of popular magazines. However, they all know how to take charge and get things done. This seems to be the most intimidating of all.
Instead of being afraid of pursuing successful women, embrace their success as part of what makes them so attractive. Whether you’ve hooked a top woman and don’t know how to handle her or you’re a guy who’s interested in finding one, don’t be threatened, instead take it as a challenge to get such capable women interested in becoming involved with you. Use the following tips to bolster your ability to woo while pursuing successful women.
Know where to find them
Women who are go-getters want to spend their time in valuable ways, since they likely have precious little of it. They won’t be hanging out just waiting for Prince Charming. This means when you’re pursuing successful women you may have to show a bit of ingenuity when seeking them out.
One of the most popular places to find powerful people these days is the gym. Women who have control of their careers tend to also be ones who have control of their lives and bodies, and like to stay fit and healthy. So if you’re pursuing successful women make sure you prowl the weight rooms, but be careful: There are a few pitfalls to this plan. Women don’t want to feel stalked while they’re trying to do their morning workout. Approach successful women carefully so as to seem casual, and don’t be too pushy.
You could also look in the places that a business woman is apt to go in the course of her day. Check bars and restaurants in the business district and hit the dinner hour — just as the work day ends. Try the line at the coffee bar early in the morning or the streetcar during rush hour. The trick with these busy times is to find successful women when they’re idle, and strike up a conversation. This way you’re more confident, and you’re not holding her up as she rushes about.
Although you may see successful women as powerhouses, they’re still women and want to be treated as such. Whether you’re just trying to get a date when you’re pursuing successful women or you’ve been out a few times, don’t be afraid to offer her your jacket, hold a door or pick her up for a date.
Pursuing successful women doesn’t have to be intimidating…
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