Fox Searchlight Pictures
For over a century, people from across the world have traveled to Indian shores to witness the Indian rope trick. It consists of a man climbing up a rope that disappears into the thin sky above, only to reappear minutes later from behind the crowd to everyone’s shock and loud applause.
It might not be pure coincidence, then, that Indian men tend to have a natural knack for putting on a show. The only rational equivalent, for the sake of my argument, to the Indian rope trick, is when an Indian man walks into a bar, approaches a succession of gorgeous women, walks out with a bunch of phone numbers and a girl in each arm.
Yes, we’re trafficking in generalities here. But we’re also talking about the habits and abilities of a huge number of Indian men, so let’s dispense with the skepticism for a moment. Here’s what you need to know about an Indian man’s dating game.
First and foremost, drop the plan. I’ve gone through my share of endless “game plan”-oriented dating websites, books and manuals. All those got me were nights alone at home with a beer and stale nachos from the night before.
Coming back home to an empty couch on several occasions, I can assure you that plans don’t work. Here’s why: You’ll have way too much noise bothering you throughout your conversation. You’ll be waiting for the “supposedly” right signals, all the while seeming nervous and insecure. Nothing could be less attractive to a woman you meet at a bar or club.
That’s the first major difference in an Indian man’s game. He has no plan. If you don’t believe me, look at the Indian infrastructure. We do first, plan later. A famous quote from Indian businessman Ratan Tata will elucidate my argument:
“I don’t believe in taking the right decisions… I take decisions and then try to make them right… So always believe in your ability and efforts.”
How would you do this? Simple. Think spontaneous, go with the flow, make something absolutely boring exciting and pay close attention to her mood. Let’s say you pick her up at 7:30 for a dinner and movie. Quite routine, ordinary and run of the mill, right? Imagine instead going bowling (because you paid attention and noticed she wasn’t that thrilled about the prospect seeing yet another superhero movie franchise). Ever seen stars in movies pull up at the airport and book tickets to the first plane that leaves? Do that, if you can afford it, at least once in your life!
If you’re not the adventurous sort, taking simpler steps will give you the confidence to do something novel later. To effectively pull off the no-plan plan is to listen very carefully to all the things she has on her bucket list. If she doesn’t like texting, drop in at her place, call her by the large mango tree (for the sake of argument, she has a large tree at the edge of her lawn), ask her to come out and meet you, and take it from there. Yes, this could be construed as a glorified booty call, but if it starts with an unexpected move, who knows where it will lead?
One particular incident I can recollect from my past will elucidate this concept. So, there we were, a bunch of friends at a big table at a pizza place. One of the girls started horsing around with me. One thing led to another and we ended up bathing each other with soda in clear view of the entire restaurant. It was random, spontaneous and ballsy because she was bored of the contrived and solicitous attention of would-be gentlemen, and I was doing something different.
Secondly, women like a guy who believes in something. It could be anything. As long as the conviction is there, she’ll believe you. With our rich heritage and culture, Indian men have a lot going for themselves. Usually, if used in the right dose, it can win over the most difficult girls. Believing in something sounds simple, but when you truly ask yourself what you believe in, you might find that it’s a route of thinking you’ve never taken before. Know the answer to that question and take it seriously. Women will take notice, believe me. Next Page
AskMen’s Free Weekly Newsletter