We all know what it feels like to know a relationship is on its last legs but neither party seems willing to step up and end it. Maybe it’s just easier to coast for a while and hope things get better on their own, but you know better than to actually think that’s a reasonable strategy, right? Not speaking up when you know your relationship is over is cowardly, and ultimately it’s not fair to her either. Sometimes a relationship can stagnate for so long that you can actually forget what it’s like to feel totally alive and happy. That dull routine becomes your new benchmark for normal life. Don’t let this happen to you.
Rather than riding inertia’s wave, take action. Yes, this is going to be hard, but if you are sure you’re not happy anymore, the painful experience is worth it.
She needs to be the first to know
Out of respect for her, never tell your friends you’re going to break up before telling her it’s over. It’s a simple thing women consider sacred. The all too connected grapevine is not the place she should or deserves to be told that you’re no longer interested. You could discuss some relationship problems you’re having with your buddies, but your final decision to break up with her should remain private.
Use your judgment to decide which day would be best to break the news to her. If she’s very emotional and you think that you’ll break her heart, try to do it on a Friday. This will give her the weekend to recover and spend time with friends. But if she’s the type to plow through full steam ahead, then perhaps Monday would be best. This will ensure that her busy workweek will keep her mind off the breakup and you.
Remember that there will be no “perfect time” to end the relationship. The best thing to do is set a random Monday or Friday to break up — and stick to it.
Choose a neutral location for the big talk
Our second point in our list of seven breakup tips for a broken relationship is for you to know and remember that it’s not fair to end the relationship at your place, and neither should you be forced to see a picture on her fridge of you and her hugging. Try to find a neutral locale where both of you would be comfortable to express your feelings, like at a park. At least there you can walk and talk, or maybe even find a more secluded spot.
A restaurant, on the other hand, is a bad choice. If she makes a scene, there’s no respectful recovery and no quick way out. However, fear of embarrassment is never a reason to leave her in the middle of nowhere. No matter how emotional and heated the conversation gets, there’s no excuse for risking her safety or yours.
No man should ever send a break-up text ever again
If you’ve lost that loving feeling, be courteous and tell her face-to-face. Phone calls and e-mail are fine for small talk, but this is a big issue. It’s natural to want as much distance as possible between you and her when you break the bad news, but in this case, fight your instincts and have the decency to say it to her face. The fact that you’re reading our seven breakup tips for a broken relationship tells us that you’re a bigger man than the guy who dials and dumps.