- Better Man in brief …
- Mystery is one of the drivers of relationships, and with old friends there’s no mystery.
- The reason you’ve never hooked up before is probably a lack of physical attraction.
- If you try and turn your friend into a girlfriend and fail, that’s the end of your friendship.
“Do you think there’s going to be much mystery to the chick who vomited all over your shoes one drunken night or told you all about her first pregnancy scare?“
So, you’re getting to that stage in your life when all of your guy friends gradually start to partner up, pop the question and enter a life of ball-and-chain bliss. As much as you may make fun of them, it’s hard to ignore the sting that often comes from being the only one in your group of friends who’s alone. This might lead you to think that your longtime female friend represents an intriguing solution to your loneliness — but considering her as possible girlfriend/wife material is all sorts of wrong. You need to discover why this could be the worst idea you’ve ever had. Understand, we’re referring to the friend you see and talk to often, not the chick from college you run into after years of not speaking; she is definitely an option.
You know each other too well
You know that exciting first stage of dating when every fact a girl shares about herself seems like a clue to the overall mystery that is her — and you’re like a modern-day Indiana Jones? This stage doesn’t last forever, nor is it the most crucial element in a relationship, but that doesn’t mean it’s not important in its own right. In an age where all our personal information is splattered all over Facebook, Twitter and whatever other social network is in vogue, mystery is highly underrated. In fact, it’s been proven that a lack of mystery creates problems for men in the beginning of relationships, much more than for women. Do you think there’s going to be much mystery to the chick who vomited all over your shoes one drunken night or told you all about her first pregnancy scare? Probably not.
There’s no honeymoon phase
When you first start dating someone, you’re either playing games or trying to impress her. That intoxicating feeling that causes girls to dress up in their best outfits and causes you to pretend to like the same movies she does is a quintessential first step of most relationships. Somewhere in the midst of those little white lies, you learn an appreciation and tolerance for things that you would never enjoy in the company of a friend. You’re skipping right past this phase if you start dating a long-time friend by heading straight into the comfort zone — a land of sweatpants Fridays and snippy comments about each other’s interests. Do not pass “Go” and do not collect $200.
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