- Better Man in brief …
- Be sparing in your affections and attention, and her demand will increase.
- Attempting most of these maneuvers in a long-term relationship is asking for trouble.
- Play up a unique trait and demand for particularly skilled men – like you – will go up.
“When women first meet a guy, they project fantasies onto him associated with their vision of the ideal man.“
This is the second in a series that looks at the economics of relationships. For part one, read Supply Demand: Friendships.
In his seminal work, Principles of Economics, published in 1890, Alfred Marshall wrote that there are four basic laws governing the price of a good in a market based on supply and demand. Briefly, they are: 1) increased demand and unchanged supply means a higher price; 2) decreased demand and unchanged supply means a lower price; 3) increased supply and unchanged demand means a lower price; 4) decreased supply and unchanged demand means a higher price.
Supply and demand may be an economic model, but given that it is human nature to want what it seems as though you can’t have, this theory can also be applied to the dating game too. Here, we school you in how to apply the concept of supply and demand to your dating life in order to achieve success.
limit her access to you
Limit your displays of affection
While conventional dating advice typically contends that women enjoy playing hard to get and that men love the chase, the reverse — that women enjoy pursuing a man who seems just out of reach — is also true. The reason is as follows: When women first meet a guy, they project fantasies onto him associated with their vision of the ideal man. The less you supply physical contact, therefore, the more her lustful demand for you will build, which, of course, can only work in your favor. Warning: This advice will completely backfire if used in a long-term relationship where regular displays of affection are one of the keys to a happy union, so follow this rule only when you’re in the early stages of a relationship or you’re presently playing the field.
Limit the contact that you initiate
You know that rule about waiting three days before you call or, in 2010, make virtual contact? Well, forget it. After all, that’s what every other guy will be doing and your goal is to be in shorter supply than the average man. So don’t even think about calling, texting, e-mailing, instant messaging, or any other form of contact until at least six days have passed. One word to the wise here: Many women like to plan in advance, so if you’re only going to call once a week, do it midweek, like Wednesday, to schedule a weekend date. This trick gives her plenty of time to prepare and also means she’ll have to wait longer to see you than she’s already been waiting, which will further build her anticipation.
Read on to find out how economies of scale can get you dates… Next Page