D. seems to be taking the concerns I brought up yesterday very seriously. Not only did he initiate sex tonight, but he?s been trying to be more initiate-y in other ways too. (Yes, I just made up that word.) He called me at work today to ask if I want to go to a new restaurant we?ve been talking about on Saturday. Then this evening, he said, ?We should really start to plan our next vacation. Let?s set a time to figure it out.?
I?m damn impressed. I mean, am I the only one who thinks that men tend to need very obvious hints when it comes to how you want them to tweak their behavior? What I?m saying is that it?s surprising that I brought up the issue of not initiating sex and D. picked up on the fact that I?d like him to initiate more things in general.
But back to the sex that he initiated. Until now, I haven?t really been paying attention to the ?Carnal Challenge? rating system in the top right corner of the page, but this one, The X-Rated has five flames, which means it?s one of the trickiest in the whole book. Here was my train of thought as I pondered doing this position: denial (nope, not gonna happen), confusion (is that angle even possible?), self-consciousness (won?t he be able to see my, uh, back door?), and finally, acceptance (it?s for Cosmo).
As you can probably guess, I kept the lights very, very dim. (If you don?t have a dimmer installed on at least one light in your bedroom, make that your next weekend project.) We started in reverse cowgirl. Then I put my hands on D.?s thighs for support and started to push my legs straight back. D. cracked up.
?Um, I think you?re supposed to lean forward first then put your legs back. Unless you?re trying to do some sort of weird seal pose.?
?Oh,? I responded. (He was right, by the way. The Kama Sutra doesn?t specify the order, but if you?re going to try this, I highly recommend resting your torso on his legs before extending your legs.)
Once in position, my butt was much more elevated that the woman?s in the illustration. Basically, D.?s peen was perpendicular to the bed, the same as if we had done regular reverse cowgirl.
I began to slide back and forth. Resting my knees on the bed?instead of on his arms, like the image shows?helped give me leverage. But D. and I also found that up and down thrusting worked well too. Yes, it?s a tad awkward. If you consider a movement that resembles humping the bed awkward.
Eventually, when it became clear that neither of us were close to finishing, I sat back up (bringing my legs in first to avoid the ?seal pose?) and we went at it in reverse cowgirl. One minute, a dozen or so thrusts, and one ?Oh god, yes? later, D. finished. I was kinda bummed since I wasn?t close behind, but he finished me off manually so I?m not complaining.
Don?t be discouraged by the five flame Carnal Challenge rating. This one was easier than it looks. Try it out and let me know if you agree.
If there were one thing you could change about your guy?s bedroom behavior, what would it be? Having him initiate more, like me? Or is it something else? What?s the trickiest sex position you?ve ever attempted? Describe it below!